Couples Therapy
I work with couples who long for a more trusting, embodied, and connected relationship.
The couples I work best with are interested in doing their own work. While it can be tempting to think our partner is “the problem,” — what’s most often accurate is that we co-create the issues in our relationships. We participate in the dynamics, informed by a slew of conscious and unconscious factors dating back to our youngest selves.
As Dr. Sue Johnson put it: “The drama of love is all about this hunger for safe emotional connection, a survival imperative we experience from the cradle to the grave.”
I approach this work with hopes of achieving 1) greater honesty and transparency on both sides and 2) increased empathy and understanding of each other. I draw from Emotionally Focused Therapy, attachment theory, Gottman Couples Therapy and the work of Terry Real and Esther Perel.
Here’s how we get unstuck:
We go beneath the content of the issues and explore the unmet attachment needs, recognizing that we are wired for connection and we protest disconnection.
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I specialize in helping couples:
communicate effectively • increase intimacy • learn how to collaborate as a team • heal past wounds • develop interdependence instead of codependence • advocate for their needs • establish more sincerity, vulnerability, and playfulness • tackle big life transitions • coparent with grace