Somewhere along the way, a lot of us learned that being okay meant being easy to be around. Don't be too angry. Don't cry too much. Don't make anyone uncomfortable. Don't say the thing that might be misunderstood. Don't need too much. Don't feel too loudly. So we learn to edit ourselves. And eventually, some of us get so damn good at it that we don't even realize we're doing it anymore. I didn't.